People don’t lie. Culture just different
Melvin Tan says:
ah i see i see
u travel alot around in china?
m[I]el;|筮|: [r.85] says:
no chance
i ah neh leh... slave
-.-
cannot take more than 3 days off continously
how to travell
Melvin Tan says:
wah....
they hav very hectic working hours?
m[I]el;|筮|: [r.85] says:
just happen my work is like that
i have been confused also. issit work like that or boss like that
i also dunno now
Melvin Tan says:
working is so different in the UK i think
thats generally how asian work life is
all about work
UK, focus on quality of life
my boss once told me
coz i waas worried that my holidays and project will clash in dates
he told me "Melvin, remember, ur holidays are more important than anythng else"
once u decide on ur holidays nothing will change it
i was like "duh""
hehehe
People don’t slip. Time catches up with them.
My my, I never expect anyone will post. But yes, please update on the competition. If ever. Birthday was spent simple, knocking off really quick, and rushing home for home cook dinner. Apparently, the next day, I flew off again, to KL. This month has been seriously hectic, and my ever time to ever high record for salary, which still proves to be minimal. Sulk.
Thank you both for wishing me a birthday.
Yes, people don't sleep. Time just catches up with them. I'd been thinking about what to be done and what has to be done. Apparently, if I continue to work as it is, life's ain't bad at all. But at the end of the day, what do I achieve? What have I lost? And most importantly, what have I miss?
It's the sad reality of life, you can't have both the Bear's paw and the shark's fins, is that how you say it? But saying that one has slip, it looks real bad, it's as if people not just fall from grace, but apparently lose it all, maybe due to a wrong turn, the not so good timing, or maybe just complacency. Whatever it is, there are always we reflect back and go "We could have done better", but what's the use?
Anyway, the HDB will have to be put on hold. Auntie Liew has her own plans, and the HDB is not part of it.
Time pass really so quick up in the air, I'm not even sure if I can meet my year end target at all. -.-
Happy Birthday Mr Mau
Dear Mau,
happy birthday. Hope you had a swell day yesterday.
May your dreams will come true.
The road to freedom is fraught with bushes of thorny inconvenience. Or, maybe, it's just a mindscape.
I'll post an update about the competition. Soon.
Nat King Cole was born same day, 17th March, in 1919. I'll leave you with his quote..
People don't slip. Time catches up with them.
Until the next post, take care!
Happy Birthday Mau Mau!!
Look who came for your birthday party!!!
**Sings in unison**
Happy birthday to you!
Happy birthday to you!
Happy birthday to Mau Mau!
Happy birthday to you!
For fun: pun intended.
Just uploaded the site up again. It was previously hacked and the site was down for a couple of months as I have no time to actually set up the account. I did all the setup while having a break in Singapore.
Ah Yat showed me this Yourtube clip when I was paying a visit to Edwin's house during CNY. Sniggers.
I am back in Singapore this year after 6 years since the last CNY. There are a lot of changes that might take time to actually get use to. The fact that my bunch is actually closing in to early 30s(many not yet married and a number still single);the fact that we cannot last minute say meetup;the fact that no matter what Singapore is still considered as home and outside is never as bright as it looks; the fact that a rat race will always be a rat race, the difference is how long the wheel can turn before it brings down.
And the fact that in another 20 years, we all be old man as well. That is something that is painful to accept. How much can we actually do in 20 years actually?
A day at Shanghai Botanical Gardens
One of those weekends where everyone is together in Shanghai, and we can take a breather. We went to Shanghai Botanical Gardens for a little relaxation and a little walk walk. Shanghai Botanical Gardens is located outside of the city at Xuhui District. We were there for like 2 hours, went a little too late. Jojo was perhaps rather unhappy that we went so late, but te good thing is that he managed to take some good pictures.
It was pretty congested in the park, with families and groups of friends taking pictures around. We avoided the ground, enjoyed the many tulips found in the garden, went a little oooh-aaah when we saw some sakura and blossoms. There were some hobbyists flying kite in some areas of the park, and some doing their little BBQ with the much-loved yang-rou-chuan (???).
Went off around 6 in the evening. Push ourselves off to this Malaysian Restraunt called Sakura in the city. Good food, a little pricy. Along the way, I was sharing a cab with Yida and Caihui. The taxi driver who took us there kept talking to us. Reason: fatigue. He was a hell driver, swearing and cursing throughout the trip as if the road only belonged to him. Occasionally, doing a couple of unnecessary and daring angry road overtaking. We smell the tyre burning, apparently he did some damages to his gear. Bad luck for us, but we arrived to whereever we want safe and sound.
We don't do much nowadays. With most of them working, and some of us never in town, Mahjong at night is just what we do nowadays. This trip happened 3 weeks ago during a shiny sunday. And yes, it is still damp and cold here in Shanghai. Where is the sun?!
Is the world going crazy for China?
It's weird. It's not even hilarious. But something is going wild for China.
The Olympics torch that passes through London and Paris were marked with angry mobs trying to entinguish it. The government is so jumpy about the situation here in China that lighters and matches are banned and included in the forbidden lists to be on board any plane. Students who wants to apply for high school here in China needs to go through some physical exams, ending up with some students thinking about the notion of doping to increase a short term burst of performance. Some people here who want to have a slim body are considering about actually eating roundworm eggs which can lead to Anemia. And the Chinese government is digging out serious archives to indicate Tibet will never be seperable from China. What has the world revolve to nowadays?
I find it rather interesting that all eyes are on China. China got the best attention, whether as an economical player, a sports player, and even as a political player. People from all over the world looks at China now. But somehow, some things are rather not so good to look at. The Chinese government understands this.
Amidst all this, it is interesting to know that the Chinese are still prideful of everything, and wishes everything will turn out well. I believe most will be relieved when the Olympics is over in Beijing this coming August. And then, more things will surfaced and be in need to be resolved.
As a foriegner here, I am just glad the weather turns good here in Shanghai, and snicker about the freak weather in Paris as snow runs down a couple of days ago.
Spring Love in shanghai
For many of us living near the Equator, we will never understand the meaning of Spring, Summer, Autumn, Winter.. the four seasons that kept our world revolving. In Singapore, we only see a never changing season, sometimes facing ourselves with the monsoon season and that's about it. When I face encounter spring in Shanghai, the first thing that caught my attention was the fact that flowers bloom before new green leaves were sprouted out.
Spring is an amazing period where new life begins and everything is given a chance to start all over again. We look at this modern city called Shanghai, where friends and strangers sometimes meet. Love in Shanghai, for expats, perhaps carried a different flavour that is different for the locals who reside here. For most, remaining in China for a long period will give them the name of Old bird. Even with that name, Old birds are usually very much an attraction to the locals, especially the Laowais who can throw off a great party, making those lovely ladies out there to fizzle and think that they are endless gold mine to dig upon.
But if you look at the traditional thinking of Asians, we prefer to have a happy marriage, many children, the ideal partner who will not shame or dishonour the family, a secure mindset that there will always be enough bread and shelter for the family.
That is so. But even so, Asian expats tend to have the mentality that Party is the word while based overseas. Many are skeptical are finding locals and thinking something will work it out. If we look at it in another way, even the locals have different mindset about love and marriage compared to overseas Asians. Chinese always feel that their partner should always be able to afford a house, have status before marriage proposal can begin. Here in Shanghai, people only marry when the guy can afford a house, have a car or something. But in Singapore, we tend to think that owning a house might perhaps take 10-20 years before it is rightfully considered as personal belonging. The one step reach the sky concept perhaps do not seem possibly ideal, and because of this cultural difference, Singaporeans always feel that Mainland Chinese girls are Xiao-long-nvu in many sense, taiji and martial art mistress who manipulate the worlds out of you
Despite this, love is still a special thing. We cannot say that things do not work out in different places and different times for the right people meeting each other. Spring is here. Love is in the air, who knows what one can find after all?
Images: Images are not originally posted on this site. They were taken online through Baidu.com
Where can the Chinese find love?
In current China, many young people choose to put aside the notion of romance for the bigger picture in career building. How they go about doing it, they might choose a couple of choices: some might continue to pursue a better degree in order to receive a masters or a doctorate, some might find means to jump to a good company and continue jumping till they meet what they want in their pyramid of life, while some might choose a different path in accordance with the field work set by the government.
But talking about marriage or love, the young generation of Chinese are more realistic in finding their ideal partner. Ladies would prefer to find someone who has prospects in his career, ability to own a house and car with ease, and hold certain status in the society. The men will wish to find a partner who can become a housewife, sweet natured, and look ideal to bring out for functions or gala dinner.
Yet, the young generation of young people in China face a difficult problem in finding their partner. The race to find what they want left them simply a little older than their previous generations of people who is much simpler in thinking. And because of this, with the emergence of the explosion of the internet and a less conservative society, online dating and speed dating become the ideal way for most Chinese to find their future partners.
Trudating.com is an online dating directory where one can find perhaps the ideal platform in which they can find their true love, seeking out perhaps the most intimate moments with their possible partner. It is not just an ordinary free online personals website, where people hopes to find someone who can spend their remaining life with, but rather, it offers advices and articles, and acts as a portal for anyone to find their special partner.
If you do not have the time to matchmake under the influences of your parents, as you have to spend so much going to different places globally to do businesses, perhaps it is time to slow down and take a look at what you want in life. Do you want to remain single forever? Do you wish to miss the chance and regret that perhaps the special one is somewhere out there?
In fact, here in China, with 50 over different ethnic races in such a large country, many are actually open minded and perhaps wishes for an exotic encounter. A friend of mine, who came to Shanghai to study, is now happily married to a lovely Korean lady. They are now happily residing in Singapore, contented and assured that it was fate that brought them together in Shanghai. What is amazing about love is that people are more open and vulnerable to accept new things. Online dating is perhaps what many young people do, and Trudating.com want to ensure you know what you can expect from it, and be prepared for the good moments you might encounter, and at the same time preventing yourself from being hurt online by scams or unwanted dangers. Dating advices are provided to all with a good will.
So, Chinese out there. Let's hope you can find your dream love soon out there. And my advice is, slow down your pace and actually look at another bright side kind of life, and from there you might see the concept of your partner soon.
Qing Ming Festival
Today is Qing Ming festival. Here in China, the government has made this day an official national holiday. The move was to spread the annual holidays in the country over the month to curb the human traffic congestion during the Spring festival season, May day and National day period. It is a good move, as people can use this period to pay their respects to the dead.
This festival is both the fifth term in the traditional lunar calendar and a festival to hold memorial ceremony for the dead. It is a day in which one expresses one's grief for his lost relatives. People often go to sweep and weed graves with whole family and take a walk in the countryside as well. In Singapore, the Chinese took the time to pay their respects to the dead in cemeteries. However, as the need for land is limited, most of the formal burial sites for our ancestors were move to small areas. Many chose to goes through the respect visiting over a month.
Here in china, people can travel over across the land by train or plane to do the chore. And many chose to do it before the national holiday to avoid the peak traffic congestion, as well as spending perhaps a well worth holiday resting or doing some neat travelling.
So what am I doing here now in Shanghai? I spent the day watching Lost Season I and playing a little bit of mahjong. Luck is good. Won enough to buy 2 packet of tobacco to past time through the night.
Whatever or however things are, we just stay up late as our form to pay our respects to the dead as we gamble through the night.
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